I'd suggest the essays. This is crunch time and years worth of effort are on the line for him. Physical and logistic issues make the "wonderful ideas and alternative ideas "impossible. So basically we were lies to for years. All your beloved friends and family are in Seattle. The house has to be perfect and I am unable to do things the correct way. If she is open to questioning her faith, perhaps she can chase you down.
I wouldn't swap roles with my husband any day, he definitly has it the hardest. I think there's a chance you two can find a way to agree on a lifestyle and values. I am no longer the vivacious young girl……life has not been easy. But, if ever were there were a time to be overly cautious it's with this topic. Funny thing is he told me when we met that he was ready to stop focusing so much on work and start focusing more on his life. You will only have a happy relationship if either you both believe in the Mormon Church, or both do not believe. I would say though that racial differences are NOT like religious differences, certainly not those between Mo and Nomo. Then be clear you will never convert. LDS theology heavily promotes the idea that marriage and family are an important source of happiness in this life, not just the next. Mormons are one of the few remaining groups with healthy women.
There's a picture of the magic rock he found while digging a neighbor's well. And you will be shocked. I am the wife of a general surgeon in his mid 50s. You stop talking at all. The LDS Church encourages that young women explore their options and meet all different kinds of people. Even without temple covenants marriage is a noble and worthy institution. He actually wanted them to be active in a religion and thought this was a good idea. It is how she is programmed and it is a fundamental tenant of the religion.
But what if your girlfriend is Mormon, but not active in the Church. That said, Mormons have learned to have fun without alcohol and often have to wait until drinkers are well-oiled and loosened up to join in the dopey-ness. Yes, anyone crazy enough to believe the story of gold plates should be able to rationalize a brown rock.