The day could come where she has to decide between her relationship with you and her church. It has been very therapeutic to read about other people's experiences. Finding a person with whom your wavelength matches, and around whom you feel you can just be yourself, talk about anything, and not be worried about being judged, is not as easy as the romantic movies and TV soaps make it out to be. Your husband will still round every weekend. Love and support them just as you would if your husband was a carpenter. I feel you on the loneliness.
LDSdotOrg is mostly propaganda. I would love to someday find myself sitting in the pew with you, sharing this amazing journey. I don't think you should abandon the relationship just because she is lds. Toxic is the right word. I'm dating a 2nd year surgical resident, he has three kids from a previous marriage and I have one. I still feel enriched by the contrasts, but in the important things, we have largely come together. It is not easy for a nonmember spouse to understand a three hour worship block plus callings etc. You can watch them all in about a half an hour and you'll know almost everything you need to know. If it is even possible, would it strengthen or weaken their ability to develop a personal relationship with their Heavenly Father. How do you feel about that.
I also remember my father a stake president telling me the night before I got married that every single couple he had counseled through marriage struggles were not reading their scriptures or praying together every night. You should certainly still date even if you are not looking for a marriage partner. Include your email address to get a message when this question is answered. You'll question your parenting decisions but he won't be involved in supporting you because he'll have no idea what's going on and little interest. After about 3 months of his occasional interjecting of facts See that 14 year old girl. It is very difficult being a Doctors wife. We'll have to discuss that, now that I actually know some things about some things. Religious affiliation is not the only criteria when selecting a spouse.
Is it fair for me to ask him to put more time and effort into our relationship. Much good luck, and keep us in the loop. I have been married to a doctor for 29 years now and think I have felt or experienced many of the worries expressed. Luckily he also wrote back really long emails and it helped us stay in touch we were doing overseas long distance-so that helped a lot. The misogyny is deep in the Mormon church. But now he is a senior doc and is called on for all the difficult stuff and can't or won't say no. So there's THAT to look forward to.