Communication is at an all time low and stress is at an all time high. But the lies sting some people. It MAY be true that she will be miserable with him and make him miserable with her. I would love to someday find myself sitting in the pew with you, sharing this amazing journey.
If you decide to marry this man, you both will find a way to be happy and have a wonderful marriage, not that perfect that we see in the Sundays at Church. All those are reasons to give the church some elbow room but they are not reasons for actually staying. Because she already lives the covenants in most of the meaningful ways. After our first kiss she lets me know she won't have sex with me because she's mormon and we'd need to be married first.
His specality is emergency medicine so I know that is extreamley competitive. All of which will remind her that she wants you to convert so you can be together for eternity. I am talking to a Surgeon from US, from an equally good college, for a possible marriage. While that is the case sometimes, it Is much more of an exception than a rule. There are such things as perfect loving families though. I have known many women who have married non-members and are happy. Have those candid conversations with HIM, ponder, and listen closely for the guidance of the Holy Ghost. Initially I thought he would join the church and life would get back on the only track I knew. Your mids is still young.
But thinking of the children I could not live with myself to do that. Our children 18,13,10 have become a handful. Would she want you to attend church with her.