There's this fantasy perpetuated in the religion that if you're good and pure enough, that any man you meet would eventually see the truth and join the church for you. The decisions we have made in how to raise our kids have been our decisions alone. I also think that if marriage outside the covenant is a sin, it is not so grave as to be unforgivable. You've stated that she had numerous guys break up with her after she took sex off the table. I also know that whenever exceptions are made, there are reasons.
Do you have any specific suggestions for discussion about content on LDS. Thank you, Liz, for your very kind words and encouragement. Would you rather give up the prospect of being married in the temple, the assurance of children being raised in the church, and parts of Mormon culture for your boyfriend, or a great man for your beliefs. Little did I know that at least some of these "emergencies" were actually rendezvous with his affair partner. This sub is a great place to do that. And unless they are total cretins your ward members will love him too.
I still feel enriched by the contrasts, but in the important things, we have largely come together. Love does a lot. Do you want a home that is focused on the church with all of the blessings there of or a home that is devoid of the blessings of the priesthood, Sundays without your husband at your side at church with your children celebrating in the gospel. You've stated that she had numerous guys break up with her after she took sex off the table. Here are my thoughts as someone who grew up with a non-mormon father and as someone who married a non-mormon girl.
Somewhere down the road, you will find another girl who will be a much better match for you. Due to their religious teachings, Mormons do not smoke, drink alcohol or caffeinated "hot drinks" coffee or tea or do drugs. Life will chuck all sorts of bouncers at you.