At that point we quit going and focused on her goals and family bonding. Finally, the decision of whom you marry is really between you and God. Is this a sign of my own weakness. My family says I should leave him…. This is the rule rather than the exception. Ignore the busy-bodies who want to condemn your significant other. Some of my closest family and friends don't truly understand my life as hard as they try. It is so frustrating emotionally and physically to be your faithful wife.
You just don't want the kids to realize how much you resent him. I just pray that we can make it through the next 3 years. Good thing is you can have multiple wives in heaven if you become exalted. They require a healthy dose of flexibility, nontraditional expectations, and teamwork You aren't always gonna have a Christmas etc I can understand it would be hard to understand the cues you are getting if you have no basis for that lifestyle, but really think it over. Reading your messages I don't feel bad about being in the shadow of his career. Look up all the threads of people who are dealing with their true believing spouses -- the guilt, the silence, the bad communication, the hostage-taking. Religious affiliation is not the only criteria when selecting a spouse.
Before I proposed, I actually broke up with my partner for a month в mostly due to family pressure. If things get even more serious, try getting her to sign a pre-nup that neither she, nor her family will try to convert you. The gold is in the footnotes and sources linked from those new essays. I am the wife of a general surgeon in his mid 50s. I made the decision not to have those things when I married a non-member. He also brought up issues with the church when we discussed religion so slowly he brought to light some disturbing facts and even though I would have denied it, it got to me. After my divorce I dated Mormon men в disastrous. Many others have asked the same question in the past so you may want to find those and read the responses there. I don't want to advocate manipulation but asking questions concerning Joseph's dishonesty about polygamy to his first wife and his marriage of other men's wives and marriage of a 14 year old may prove more fruitful than just saying wow polygamy is messed up.
There are many good things. I wish you all well on your recovery from this particularly vile church. There are times where u rarely hear from him and then he contacts me. My husband did his best to do the same though a medical career makes it a challenge. This makes me so sad. That being said, we have built something beautiful and good, have modeled loving responsibility and accountability to our kids, and I am certain I am with the man God chose for me.