Maybe there is wisdom behind some of the peculiarities. Racial differences can be very trivialвthey really didn't come up much for my parents, for exampleвand are basically false differences. I have suggested a date night just for us but, he doesn't want a scheduled night for dates. It sounds like if we were to have a happy ending, it wouldn't be quite so happy because of how we raise our kids or how the rest of the family would treat me forever We'll discuss it again in more depth now that I have a few specific concerns about what our future together might look like.
Mormons follow the law of Chastity; they believe that the intimate act of lovemaking must be saved for after marriage. If she is open to questioning her faith, perhaps she can chase you down. Whenever you bring something up, they'll say if it's not on lds. Ask her right out if she is at all interested in leaving TSCC. There will, in fact, still be churches besides our own. I was just told that today when I told a friend how lonely it gets being married to a doctor and how I miss having my bestfriend around. I'm dating a 2nd year surgical resident, he has three kids from a previous marriage and I have one. If anyone interested in dating a doctor and try their luck,you can visit No-Scrubs a special social network just for doctors and physicians.
On the other hand, if you believe God is bigger than we can imagine, and is not constrained by religious dogma, you have as good a chance as any at a happy, thriving relationship. I know that when we have children I will be doing most of the work. I feel to say, if you hear this, Amy, in time, it will all come round right.
And yes, some people are unbelievably stupid about it. Consider also the evolving perspective of the potential husband. When my wife and I married, we were very different, but I found all the differences delightful. She will insist on raising her children in the Mormon church.