And, as I was writing the reply, above, those thoughts went through my head. I've decided not to mention the CES letter or anything that could be considered "anti-mormon. You should both sit down and have a serious conversation about what you want and what she wants and if you can both deal with the compromise. Seems he's always on call or on a totally different schedule than I. If your spouse believes in infant baptism, will you allow the children to have that. Keep the relationship casual. A Mormon wife will also want to bring the kids along, and that should be discussed and decided before marriage and before kids. But it is important to be ruthlessly honest with yourself about how you feel about it.
Listen, you are in a bad situation and it just has not come to a head yet. I wouldn't end a relationship with her, just as I wouldn't deny someone a job, or refuse to socialize with someone who is a Mormon. Patriarchal leadership is something that most women in the world valued until recently, but it is still a chief value with Mormons. Interreligious marriages are not a new thing. Everyone has their own sins and impure thoughts they need to overcome. I'm afraid he's going to be more in love with work than me and a family. You are commenting using your Facebook account.
That said, I would be fully aware that Mormonism is going to compel even the best of them to do some truly horrendous stuff at times. She went ahead a married a non member. You never walks you'll never know. Interfaith marriage is but one variety of the learning experience.
That's why I was hoping to hear from someone dating or married to a doctor. Now if your faith is not so strong to begin with, this perhaps is no big deal. I'm married an interventional cardiologist; and I wish I only knew 5 years ago before she started her fellowship what the heck I was signing up for. How do you maintain a healthy balance with relationships and work when your partner has a more demanding profession than you. Somehow snow days when everyone else is off, I feel like my husband is the only one working I know there are many but it is very hard. You can't force her to change, nor should you if you could. Let her go right now then. She's told me the church is one of the most important things to her, but from what I've researched already there's no way I would subject my future children to this culture. I have only been living with him for a month. JS married a girl her age when he was 37, after having told her that he had been threatened by an angel with a flaming sword and promising her entire family salvation if she consentedI decided to read the ces letter.