It has just made me realize that these formulas a lot of us Mormons learn growing up about how to have a happy marriage are, well, crap. I find there are less disappointments when I know I am completely on my own. I think my husband would do okay with the loneliness - just like I do. We play doctor - then she leaves.
Before I would just take things as they came, internalize them, be miserable about it but not voice my concern in fear of being told that I can't handle his lifestyle. I had many, many friends who moved this quickly during courtship, too. Learned by me in time and tears. If I were a Good Doctor's Wife I'd be loving and reassuring and tell him that everything is going to be ok. That response made her very happy. We strive to improve each other. Sorry, but it just isn't worth it. She views patriarchy as a quality of God. When we were dating he made it very clear to me that he had no desire to come back to church.
But I got tired of that, and I made it clear to him that I will stay in with him as often as he wants, put him to bed, make food with him or for him, clean, etc. I don't know how to manage the resentment. I can no longer spend more than 30 minutes in the sun. In her mind if you never accept the gospel you are denying her eternal exaltation as a God. Better than freezing up and avoiding them altogether. If I knew any better going into this relationship I would have stopped. Women do not get to hold the priesthood and function in an equal role with men. He has never said a disparaging word about his mother. She's already past her prime in the Mormon dating market. Maybe you do, too.
Be open-minded; accept that different people have different beliefs, and that they do not always have to match with yours. The views expressed herein do not necessarily represent the position of the Church. He is my soul mate and we love each other very much. The Mormon church is certainly a time consuming church. And if it's notyou need to find someone in a different field. And when he's working, you should be able to connect somehow.