So now, after two years, I'm finally starting to realise that just because I've met someone and we love each other dearly, it doesn't mean I get the benefits of having a co-parent around, which is something I desperately want. To sum up, they're incapable of loving anyone but themselves and the thought of a marriage counselor freaks them out as this would mean confronting their ultimate excuse of "I'm too busy". Avoid the topic when you can, it's not something that'll be pretty unless handled in a calm discussion which Well, people as a whole tend to be pretty immature with big topics. Some day he hopes to make it to Romania and settle down. It may not seem like a big deal now, but eventually it will probably surface that at best, the church impacts and influences her behavior in almost every area, at worst, it dictates it. Avoid the topic when you can, it's not something that'll be pretty unless handled in a calm discussion which Well, people as a whole tend to be pretty immature with big topics. I met my ex when he was a 2nd year resident and married him when he completed his oncology fellowship. See, I am a SAHM and my husband has just gotten accepted into a 4 year pediatrics residency program this year. From reading the above posts from previous posters, please keep in mind that while it helps to read and learn from each others' experiences as we are all in the same boat -- we must also make the distinction between someone's occupation and their personality or character. You may look on here and see all of us, but a lot of us got out much much older.
Also, we haven't practiced polygamy for over years. My relationship is the same way. I think it was Spencer Kimball who counselled that before marriage you should keep your eyes wide open and then after marriage keep your eyes half shut. We would have a movie night at his apartment on a Saturday night and the next few days would be great. Are you going to keep the sabbath holy as a family, or is he going to take the kids out for pizza after church, leaving you home to observe alone. There will always be difference between spouses. But we Always had time for each other. I expected to find this sisterhood of wives that would comfort, uplift, and laugh with one another. This came about after many hours and many days of prayer, scripture study, going to the temple, receiving a priesthood blessing, and speaking with people I greatly trust my mom, especially. Before the cap inresidents sometimes worked hours per week.
Plan on rolling your eyes A LOT at family get torturers together. If she says that the mission was the greatest experience and best two years of her life, any chance you have at a normal long-term healthy relationship is dim unless you convert. We talked about getting married early in our relationship since we had known each other forever. It sounds like she's already considered marrying you and raising children in the church even with you being out of the church. It has been very difficult to reconcile our two expectations, hopes and dreams. Again, reading your blog definitely opened up my eyes to many things I was totally oblivious to. That was literally over years ago.
If you are a believer and are willing to go, then well and good. Somehow I never believed any of that; I wanted a career and a small family and never believed religion was a way to identify good character. Well, for me I'd take issue with the refusal to be a gentleman.