She will be surprised that a non-Mormon holds the same values she does and respect you. When I hear some of the issues going on in Mormon Land, I usually say to myselfв. If you can live with some auxiliary authority in your life knowing that your wife will, as necessary, bend to its will instead of yours, you'll cross those bridges as you come to them. I like to think that what you said really resonated with her. If you and she are not sealed, your children won't be sealed to either of you. There will be struggles in marriage and childrearing whether or not he is a member. Are they a functioning member in society. How do you feel about that.
He probably hates even the memory of me for getting him in that stupid church. If it is already an issue in your relationship, then it'll amplify to an extreme if you get married. So if you are caffeine junky, be sure that you can adjust to and accept your date's beliefs before going on a date. Not sure I want to marry one and live a lonely life, I just want a life partner that can be there for me and any future children. Why Mormons are not racist. No lie he was one of the kindest human beings I've metbut I was afraid of getting deeper into the relationship, so I ended it. I've heard way too many stories of people breaking up with amazing people and they end up alone or in a less happy relationship. Should we try to heed their counsel and marry in the Church.
If it were me, I would be flattered they had that much time to spend on me. A straight-laced, returned sister missionary, raised in the cult, and in family of similarly entrenched cult members, will not likely remain happy with a non-member. It may change your relationship to them forever. And no I would not pressure them to convert but as a Latter-day Saint I would pray for them to convert as I do for many people I know and love.
Yes, do sever the relationship. Just go ahead and ask for the definitions and treat it like learning a new language. Take issues as they arise, rather than throwing away what could be a good experience for you and her based off of what might happen. You might need to trade missionary lessons for research on her part, and we can suggest less scary resources. I wish you the best of luck. She, her family, and her friends all believe that she can't get into the Celestial Kingdom VIP Heaven unless she is "sealed" to a Mormon husband. Discover the joys of a non-sexual relationship and find sincere ways to show affection without sex. I am active in church, I take my kids regularly, and I have callings. That said, I would be fully aware that Mormonism is going to compel even the best of them to do some truly horrendous stuff at times.