I recently left my family, friends and state to move across the country to be with my best friend and boyfriend during his residency. For the first time in my life, at age twenty-seven, I am in a relationship that is good and loving and serious enough that I believe it may lead to marriage. You need to disabuse them of this notion. Hopefully, it will give a little insight into Mormonism's insidiousness.
Also, love how you describe how God has our backs and we can actually act on the notion of things hoped for that are not seen instead of the quaint pseudo idea that all things are known in advance, step by step, and lead to mortal and eternal bliss. I would go ahead and make boundaries with the conversation about kids and church, if that is your preference. There is much that needs to change and many hearts to educate but if we doubt some of the fundamentals then why not all of them.
We met at home just before he went back to school and even though we only had a week together, it was whirlwind and we already spoke of marriage and kids. We can't tell you that. I'd like to reiterate, though, that sheer physical exhaustion isn't as much of a problem for me as it might be for a med student or a doctor, so he might be deserving of the benefit of doubt if he doesn't keep in touch regularly. Have you seen southpark episode on Mormons. If she was anything like me, that idea is probably foreign, radical, confusing, interesting, and inspiring to her. The important part of finding a partner to marry does not, in my opinion, revolve around whether or not you are of the same religion. Be prepared for divorce. Be open and talk about your ideals.
A couple of things I run into most is that people assume I am also Mormon. As a married female resident, I wanted to offer you the other side of this Your husbands love you, and miss you. Just stumbled across this site today after trying to find ways to help me cope with dating a Doctor. Even if the church believes a bunch of crazy nonsense, and she believes it too, I still really like her and would like to see whether we can have some good intellectual conversations about this stuff. He had a nervous breakdown- panic attack by 10am. If you are worries about her or her family trying to convert you, be honest. Why Mormons are not sexist. They are taught to refrain from smoking, drinking, or experimenting with drugs. If you can't do that, realizing that your partner may never come around to your side of things, you are not ready to marry this person.