Your attempts at being funny or lightening the mood may backfire, and your date may be put off. I am not sure if this post can be gone through, if it does, please reply me. I'm a first year medical student and met my boyfriend in college when he was in med school now in his residency. In response to the anonymous comment posted April 3, I am not married but have been dating a medical student for about four years, he is in his second year of residency and it has honestly been difficult because when he graduated medical school he had to move five hours away to start his residency program so we travel back and forth and our relationship is serious but im scared that things will never get better as far as his busy schedule, even when im there to visit he is on call and im basically on a mini vacation by myself.
I married my husband 11 years ago, when he was an undergrad student. She can never hang out on Sundays because she apparently spends the entire day at church. I am a soon-to-be Surgeon's wife and my boyfriend and I have started discussing the changes that are going to happen when he enters his residency. Or is this pretty standard behavior for a busy person in his position Just a heads up from someone in the medical field, the experience of residency will own them until the end of it. I wanted to be able to fully share my faith with my spouse, but this expectation was now up in the air. I would never ever choose a different path. I have a tendency to be overly sensative emotionally and the trauma of being forced to choose between someone I love and want to spend the rest of my with and Eternal Mormon Celestial Salvation caused me extensive emotional damage that I have struggled with ever since.
I was happy to read your blog. That said, I would be fully aware that Mormonism is going to compel even the best of them to do some truly horrendous stuff at times. Either it's enough for you - or it's not. Helpful way to learn the facts in a fast and funny format. Would I like to have him by my side. A stereotype I hope will be destroyed someday, but not today. A good place to go is to a museum, hiking, or to a park.
Yes, it is bad. So that may be the end of it there. Is the answer really just communication and uninterrupted alone time. I'm on the same page as you. Toxic is the right word. Hello to everyone in this thread. You all are strong for staying but I just don't see how it is possible long term to live like this. I understand the sacrifice that it takes to become a doctor, but I am not sure if he does. Is it really worth it to give up what I want out of a relationship because its hard to balance studying which I understand is stressful and being with the person who makes you happy.