To the two wondering sistersвYou both appear to be with loving, incredibly supportive men. If I could I would marry a businessman or a builder which could have earned us a lot more and wouldn't mean we had to move so much. I'm engaged to a med student we met in undergrad 2 years ago and I've watched him go from playful college kid to serious med student. While that is the case sometimes, it Is much more of an exception than a rule. This blog accommodates some frank admissions about that which is less than wonderful about LDS.
I usually mean exactly what I say. I have been reading this blog for a while now but this is the first time I have felt I needed to add my two cents in. Well in my case and at this time, some of their words and advice are really hitting home and taking root because we are yet another casualty of the residency firing brigade. The religious differences between you two are a deal-breaking fault. You will be surrounded by single women, many of whom are probably interested in dating and marrying a Mormon, so take advantage. When the weather is nice outside, I crave for a walk with my husband, but have to tell myself he is busy saving lives. Please share your dating experience with a doctor or a medical resident. Hire out as many household chores as you can afford housekeeping, lawn care etc. He should tell her that he will never convert, and that if she will not be happy unless he does, the relationship should end. I had many, many friends who moved this quickly during courtship, too.
It made me sad to think that the thing that was most important my life в my faith в was something that I could never fully share with my husband. She was masterful at hiding the cuts and bruises with clothing. For me and the woman I'm in love with, we CAN discuss it without breaking down into spittle and hate. It seems like a minor point, but I have noticed that every Mormon girl who disobeys the Mormon direction to avoid coffee has something majorly wrong with her. I married my husband 11 years ago, when he was an undergrad student. So I'm wondering if things will ever change or if this is just one of the drawbacks of dating a doctor. I still cry every night for himbecause I love himprobably always will. In the endвthe very endвGod loves my husband even more than I love him. The church didn't do it to her but it helped create the environment that allowed it to happen.
What a bozza topic. Think of every possible scenario you can think of. Your girlfriend might, or maybe IS, going through this. I love talking religion with him and I have never pressured him to change his habits or anything else about him. Do you drink alcohol. Sadly, the general consensus of "convert or nope out" sounds like what will end up happening. And he needs to trust his instincts if he thinks she's being dishonest. And her husband now is dead and she is left to wonder about their future. Before it started he got me a puppy that I maybe didn't really want to keep me company to help deal with the loneliness, so at least hopefully he understands. I think nothing really prepared either of us for fellowship though.