That is her ultimate goal when it comes to dating and choosing potential mates. If you marry her, you're marrying into a cult, a mild cult as far as cults go, but a cult nonetheless. At the very least, I might have tried to persuade my husband to pursue a different career, if only a less-demanding area of medicine. If you can live with some auxiliary authority in your life knowing that your wife will, as necessary, bend to its will instead of yours, you'll cross those bridges as you come to them. Just know that she has been indoctrinated to believe that she wont reach the highest level of heaven if she isn't married in a Mormon temple to another Mormon.
Some of the most wonderful lesbian sex I've ever had was with a TBM girl. For me and the woman I'm in love with, we CAN discuss it without breaking down into spittle and hate. At first it didn't bother me, but after a while I started feeling more like a booty call and less like a SO. Seclusion has served to preserve their desirable traits, but it also makes it difficult to gain rapport. You can always expand these into group dates by inviting other couples along, which may make her more comfortable in the early stages of your relationship.
Just as secular marriages have problems, so do temple marriages. Honestly, unless you want to convert and: And, if she does claim those things don't matter, be prepared to find out how much they really do after you've married her. It might be just a few seconds, depending, but evidence that he's thinking of you. Can he see the good in it, or does he focus on the more controversial aspects. He's not home much and his hours are crazy but, wow, I am one happy woman. Things I have and continue to think about. It seems to me like you are walking into a relationship where there is a significant disconnect from the start. She will introduce you to the church.
I don't mind staying home because I understand he's tired. Or does this sound more like a conscious choice he's making not to get invested in this. In each case, you should also consider how this will affect your families. What is it like to become a doctor in your country. These are things your wife may consider matter-of-fact and you may be surprised by if you don't discuss them now. When we obsess over it we start acting like a customer in a clothing store wondering what he or she will look like if they wear that particular wardrobe. Ladies take a stance. If you have a literal belief that you need to have a temple marriage to go to the celestial kingdom, you will always keep a secret desire to convert your spouse. He may never come out and say it, but if you mention marriage outside of the church and he's OK with it, you have a slight chance of being happily married to her and not being mormon. That conversation prompted me to find and read through this sub, and there's some seriously disturbing shit here.