The thing I worry about is the reason that we are together is that I don't want to build my own life. You have to make the decision as to what you want your home and your children to have in that home. You knew exactly what you signed up for when you married a doctor. That settles it for me. The answer is, most emphatically, NO. That's another 15 for me. So, one would one think, "yay, she works, has a life and friends and has avoided the ongoing loneliness and "empty nest syndrome". But what does it really mean to be a patriarch, to lead your tribe. I forgot to mention that we've only been dating for 6 mo. Their perspective gives you an idea of how important your role as wife and mother is to the success of the family of a doctor's wife.
What do you guys do about this-- do you go with your spouse. A lot of what you say about Support was what I expected to find in residency. Even though we live together, we barely see each other - when he is working nights, we go several days without seeing each other at all he is usually still at work when I head out in the morning, and gone by the time I get back in the evenings. We often have issues because of his relocation every year. I would bet this is exactly what she is thinking about you, which is why she is willing to have a relationship with you aren't a Mormon. Don't approach him with a demandsuch as "I need you to put more time into our relationship". Otherwise her family will likely feel incomplete to her. My spouse really is the most important and I would be nothing without them. I think in most situations its either you join or she leaves- either you, or the church.
She is now happy with her uber-Mormon boyfriend and I am happily dating other people as well. Find out what your partner thinks of as non-negotiable. Or am I just being a pushover and need to demand a little more if he wants to keep seeing me. I know people should not get married if they can't accept each other as they are. Somewhere down the road, you will find another girl who will be a much better match for you. There is NO guarantee that marrying a returned missionary RM in the temple equates with love and happiness.
Reading your messages I don't feel bad about being in the shadow of his career. For girls, being the right age for marriage usually means graduating high school, if not later. Honestly, unless you want to convert and: And, if she does claim those things don't matter, be prepared to find out how much they really do after you've married her. That doesn't get better unless you humble yourself, either -- admit you might be wrong. Just an idea, I have no idea what would actually work for her. Also, love how you describe how God has our backs and we can actually act on the notion of things hoped for that are not seen instead of the quaint pseudo idea that all things are known in advance, step by step, and lead to mortal and eternal bliss. There's a reason so many Utahns are on anti depressants and anti anxiety meds.