This is a very delicate territory, so tread carefully. That is a hard truth. They seriously have movies about it. BUT it could easily have gone the other way. Second, in my experience mormons have been some of the kindest people I've ever had the privilege to know, and they have not lived up to the cult image you describe. First and most importantly, I see major trust issues in your future if you both think the other is brainwashed. Even though it sounds like she is very Mormon, I feel that this will help her. My faith, while less orthodox, has certainly matured. It also means that you have to give her something particular to do.
The woman I have feelings for is conflicted on her religion in regards to me. We were planning on doing it on memorial day weekend so we could get married on a sunday between graduation and residency but that is a Jewish holiday. Things have been mostly good, but there are always challenges to deal with. I was not in any way dissing her personally, nor dissing her at all, really Many people here have told the guy to run; I just went into more detail. I know "Meet the Mormons" isn't what I'm looking for I went through a very similar experience earlier this year and the community was extremely helpful.
Finding a person with whom your wavelength matches, and around whom you feel you can just be yourself, talk about anything, and not be worried about being judged, is not as easy as the romantic movies and TV soaps make it out to be. Learn all you can. Instead, I found someone outside the cult and we've been married almost 32 years She's looking for a dedicated priesthood holder who will take her to the temple. I understand that, and accept that. We learn sooooooo much from each other. I knew a woman who married a man who converted to the church and she spent the rest of their married life telling him he was not good enough. This girl is also a real person, not a caricature of a cult member, and even if the ultimate result is a breakup, she deserves to be treated with compassion and respect.
Some Mormons believe the Telestial Kingdom will be littered with spouses who refused to get baptized. Do any of your husbands drink alot of wine. You need to repent and change. So if you are dating a Mormon guy, always wear knee-length, avoid tiny shorts, mini skirts, short or revealing dresses, plunging necklines, or sleeveless tops. And generally those people seem to have great difficulty in breaking off the relationship, even though they are told that it is a dead-end situation that will cause them big trouble in the future. Keep the relationship casual. I had a single mom friend who only had her kids every other week and she was treated with kid gloves.