She was masterful at hiding the cuts and bruises with clothing. I wouldn't swap roles with my husband any day, he definitly has it the hardest. They are always dressed in decent clothing, and the same is expected of their date. A quiet, hard working immigrant but dedicated and faithful. I am a non Mormon. Plx express what yu think as you ladies are more experienced in this stuff. So basically we were lies to for years. The system has broken him down and rebuilt him as someone, I fear, I won't be able to respect or feel connected to. I know people should not get married if they can't accept each other as they are. It just seems like I'm never on his mind unless I'm physically in front of him, and then he's sweet as can be.
Religious affiliation is not the only criteria when selecting a spouse. I dated many LDS guys before him. Know that you are playing a game aka dating mormon girls that has low odds of success. Not in endless discussions of temple marriage, not ever. We long to have a connection that you don't have time for. Somehow I never believed any of that; I wanted a career and a small family and never believed religion was a way to identify good character. You won't know this until you do it and that is really important information to get before a marriage contract. If this is the case, she definitely can be reprogrammed and awakened. How do you doctor wives do it.
A lot of Mormons escape that pitfall and can put people first. You will be surrounded by single women, many of whom are probably interested in dating and marrying a Mormon, so take advantage. I have read some of the comment here and would like to share my experience. He then proceeded to beat the shit out of her for a decade. But if you are with someone who is plainly selfish or dishonest or mean, then don't let them use their occupation as an excuse.
As these are probably the two most important things to you, it will most likely, be a very difficult decisionвfollow your heart and the spirit. I am a 47 yr old Mom of a 4 yr old child with special needs who is completely alone to care for my child a good part of the time. And I learned how freeing that is. If not, it's better to find out now than to continue with something that isn't satisfying you. Once his residency is over, you'll have more time together, but that's going to be a while from now. Mormon theology is peculiar, yes, but the media frequently takes things out of context and misrepresents the religion. I was actually just talking to my husband about that the other day, at first he said that it depressed him when I said that, but really, it helps. The first time that happened could have been viewed as a warning sticker, and been your cue to exit stage right.