Having said that, I believe strongly that it takes a special individual who can remain active in the church and have a non-traditional marriage. Now he is home for dinner every night, takes a fraction of the calls, and doesn't work holidays. If you are dating a Mormon girl, then always wear a good shirt, jeans or pants, and avoid T-shirts with offensive wording or graphics. It's unfair to assume that she feels that way without asking her. Let's talk about kids.
Work out as many as you can before marriage happens. But daughter and I agreed that this teaching was unhealthy. Even after that, the Church discourages youth from entering serious relationships before they are considering marriage. What's NOT to like about being the wife of a medical doctor. I got married last year, left a great job, family, friends and city to be with my husband in a very small under developed town. An important is doing this together. But, as soon as the marriage happened, the Mormon spouse goes full on Orthodox and expects the non Mormon to comply.
So how do we approach saving a relationship with someone who has unrealistic expectations of what a long-term relationship looks like. Yes, those of us in the hospital work longer and harder days than most people with 9 to 5s, but we still have off days. You can't gamble on her seeing Mormonism for the shit show that it is. The ones who already had concerns start questioning. But what if your girlfriend is Mormon, but not active in the Church. But it's the away rotations for months at a time that get really hard. However, he was often in a horrible mood after long shifts. Now that my boyfriend and I are beginning to talk about a future together, though, I realize that I need to consider this question of marrying outside of the church very carefully. I will, and have said before that is is one of the worst decisions to marry a doctor also.
Unless you have those same understandings, I'm sad to say the relationship is almost certainly doomed. My spouse really is the most important and I would be nothing without them. I hope this will change in the future - it would be difficult living a lifestyle like this in the long run.