That desire that they be someone other than who they were when they married you is toxic to a relationship. He was not a prominent man in the church. I'm on the same page as you. It hasn't been easy for me to create a regular social life that involves me missing a husband. I learned, growing up, that very principle, that you HAD to marry a member or your marriage was doomed.
I don't think it's going overboard, though, to state one very possible and very likely scenario, and that is that this girl may likely be completely indoctrinated and believing. I know it is really hard for you and I'm sure it is hard for him too. I've been seeing a doctor for two years now. As for the Mormon cohort he will be exposed to, I have two thoughts: And so far as I could tell, it worked and no one tried to drag her husband into the church. You are a good person. He told me that there is nothing in the world that is more gratifying.
Religion is super important to LDS people but there's also alot of exmormons. Even selfish at times. All I can say is, "WOW". Most of the doctors I know are either way older and in private practices where they can set their schedules a bit OR they're my age and still going crazy with residency hours. Make an honest effort, and see if you reach the walk-away point. I believe when you die, you die, and you live on in memories and hearts. Why do we not talk about Heavenly Mother. But it would not change my love for that person. Dating in your teenage years will help you learn the kinds of things you value in another person.
I'm so happy I've found your blog. Did he get kicked out of the church for marrying you. If you do believe it fully, are you not really going to want him to make the conversion ultimately. I went in thinking "oh, we can definitely do this. People should marry for love, not money. Honestly a lovely man but the sheer focus of time and attention has meant there is little if any left for me, I'm lucky if I get 5 minutes in comparison with some nights of 2 hours going on and on and on about work. We met on the day he was accepted into medical school, lived together for his rotations during 3rd and 4th years and were all set to move together for residency. Is it wrong to make those types of sacrifices.