Like you I grew up with and taught the standard LDS beliefs about temple marriage, celestial kingdom, etc. Also, I'm having a really hard time understanding from these responses how anyone in the medical field ever dates or gets married. Love is what we do, not what we feel. The woman I have feelings for is conflicted on her religion in regards to me. Your relationship with your family will be healed, and so will you. All faiths have vocabulary unique to them.
He has always had a tremendous caseload and often grueling call schedule. I seriously questioned the future of our relationship based on that fact alone. While a part of me is sad about not having a temple marriage and getting sealed together I have hope that this could change while we are on this earth and I have faith in an ever-loving Father in Heaven who is kind and just and will be able to provide a way for my family to live together in the eternities. He is doing 2nd year Residency. I hate to say it, but if you are serious, go explore her world. I grew up believing that when, where, and by what authority I was married were equally important to whom I married. Is it wrong not to. That is a hard truth.
But she understands that I am committed to the Gospel, and will never leave it either. I appreciate all the replies explaining the extent of the aggravation and pain I likely will face. I hope I can forgive it someday, but even still my anger is red hot. I was off travelling the world when I met and fell madly in love with a deployed Marine. LDS theology heavily promotes the idea that marriage and family are an important source of happiness in this life, not just the next. Early in our relationship, I gave some thought to the question of whether I would ever be willing to marry a non-Mormon.
I respect all doctors so much, they go through hell to be where they are and put up with so much stuff at their work too. I've been married over 4 years to a 1st year GI fellow. It's not impossible, just painful and unlikely. It doesn't help to know that he is terrible at being alone. Would you rather give up the prospect of being married in the temple, the assurance of children being raised in the church, and parts of Mormon culture for your boyfriend, or a great man for your beliefs. I never pressure him to spend time with me. That's a really sad story. He too goes to the vacation house a lot to take care of the property and the boat on most weekends he is not on call, and it has been something I have been made to accept. Consider a mix of activities that are inexpensive, and allow you to talk and learn about one another.