I intend to spend some quality time in the temple, with my bishop, and with close family and friends as I think and pray my way through this decision, but I would also value your insights into this. While you will be of the right age to date, the Church discourages you from trying to date someone while on your mission trip. If she is full on Mormon, this relationship will go one of two ways: You will convert and change your entire lifestyle and personality to conform with her expectations never to deconvert or you will face severe penalitesor you will break up because you won't convert and change everything about yourself. In addition to that, when we do see each other, he is so exhausted that he usually passes out.
And if you do belong to a ward full of cretins, you must do everyone a favor and just ignore them until they go extinct. She has to decide for herself what she believes, but you can definitely help expose her to new ideas. I'm not marrying to be a single, working mom with money.
This woman has already given two full years fully devoted to the institution without question. Many men have begun leaving the Church in their early twenties as the mission has become more important. As for deciding to marry someone who is not mormon, here is how I made the decision. Now that I am married, it has become more apparent that his previous comments about not minding if his wife has a career, were not entirely accurate. If this is the case, she definitely can be reprogrammed and awakened. The day could come where she has to decide between her relationship with you and her church.
I still feel enriched by the contrasts, but in the important things, we have largely come together. I grew away from mine as my husband then-boyfriend slowly grew closer to his Mormon faith. It's a heart-wrenching story. I think she sounds great but she won't be able to not bring it up. So I feel a little frightened after reading this blog. It is much easier for the Holy Ghost to influence good people. This isn't encouraging to me, it's sad. The church can be a very cruel place for single people.