What a miserable state. I don't think you should abandon the relationship just because she is lds. Is there even any sex at all in this fantasy. As for deciding to marry someone who is not mormon, here is how I made the decision. I read every page of the CES letter, and it's definitely convinced me this entire religion is fabricated, but I'm sure she wouldn't even read it much less consider its points seriously. I understand your internal conflict completely and my heart goes out to you. I've heard way too many stories of people breaking up with amazing people and they end up alone or in a less happy relationship. As a community, we're not set up for screening each funding request [more]. She's already past her prime in the Mormon dating market. What you are potentially choosing is certainly not the easiest path.
My husband did his best to do the same though a medical career makes it a challenge. But it is important to be ruthlessly honest with yourself about how you feel about it. Your relationship with your family will be healed, and so will you. How do Mormons feel about contraception.
If I just assume he won't be home to eat dinner with us, it's a happy surprise when he is. These are also only the American statistics. It's why TBMs are so bugged by people that leave the church. I then asked some questions about some of the essays, and her answer to everything is "because god. If you have dated a doctor or other abnormally busy person or are in the medical profession yourself that would be particularly helpful, but I'll gladly take any words of wisdom. How do you feel about that. As an atheist with Buddhist undertones who married a non-practicing, god-believing Mormon at the height of his questioning, I find this so interesting to me. I expected to find this sisterhood of wives that would comfort, uplift, and laugh with one another. This is normal for residents.
He may never come out and say it, but if you mention marriage outside of the church and he's OK with it, you have a slight chance of being happily married to her and not being mormon. That deal with polygamy explained. And the you've seen the CES letter. I knew a couple in my last ward who got married in their mid 20's. Plan on rolling your eyes A LOT at family get torturers together. Things have been mostly good, but there are always challenges to deal with. But remember that it is also your wife's choice to obey or disobey, and that you have no authority over her as a person, either.