You are too young to deal with this. She likely hasn't had many long-term relationships and has no idea what dynamics are involved in one. If this is someone you are to marry, then the rest will take care of itself. Also don't ask questions that are too intrusive, or those that you would not like to answer yourself. It works, though, because I know that his beliefs have great worth. If she is motivated enough to want to go on a mission, she will likely not settle for having a second class "eternal companion" you who is a convert or one who cannot be sealed to her for eternity. Instead, I found someone outside the cult and we've been married almost 32 years She's looking for a dedicated priesthood holder who will take her to the temple. Hopefully they have some say in it, but I'm speaking about other churchgoers' expectations here, and probably your wife's. I was spiritually prepared to receive the answer that I sought.
She will want her kids blessed, baptized, taking temple trips to baptize for the dead, hold the priesthood, a bishop will ask you sons and daughters if they masterbate and punish them if they do, etc. Many Mormons stick to a small group of friends within the church. These are also only the American statistics. Read that entire speech and you will see a slew of racist statements. I have observed in relationships among friends and family inside and outside of the church that holding a temple recommend does not guarantee a strong, happy marriage. I just wanted to let SN and AD know that, if you decide to choose this path, you are not alone. I am in my first year of medicine. It is positively shocking. These exclusions, dictated by doctrine, hold the potential to create wedges between you, both immediately, and in the long term.
I think patience and understanding is also important. Please start another thread and continue the conversation. After two years of being together with very few problems, it ended within 30 minutes of having "The Talk" about my future religiosity. I worry it will only be worse when the kids grow older. The important thing is doing it together. They will teach the girls that sex is bad and wrong, which is something they will have trouble putting behind them when they eventually do get married. We have not been intimate in 6 weeks now. The Church encourages people to be a good influence on one another, and she will probably expect you to dress well for her. Maybe he found a nice Mormon girl after all. It's a foolish dream I suppose.
Be open to the wisdom the Spirit will share. She didn't tell anyone because her own lack self worth and shame petrified her to do anything about it. They believe that the body is a temple that needs to be worshiped, and that inner beauty is more important. I gave her a piece of my mind as my home is much happier and healthy now then when I was married to my x. It is much easier for the Holy Ghost to influence good people. Some of the most wonderful lesbian sex I've ever had was with a TBM girl.