But she understands that I am committed to the Gospel, and will never leave it either. Joanna mentioned that our theology is rich with opportunities for second chances. She's told me the church is one of the most important things to her, but from what I've researched already there's no way I would subject my future children to this culture. Be gentle with them and yourself. I seriously questioned the future of our relationship based on that fact alone. I have been reading this blog for a while now but this is the first time I have felt I needed to add my two cents in. The ex gets it all lol. Mormonism is a lot more controlling and has a lot more downsides.
Maybe watch "Going Clear" with her. This came about after many hours and many days of prayer, scripture study, going to the temple, receiving a priesthood blessing, and speaking with people I greatly trust my mom, especially. I have been happily married to a non-mormon for 20 years. I'm quite willing to take you at your word, but my guess is that academia had nothing to do with your ex being immature. No one could compare to the man I married. I've supported him for 5 years, taken on that Doctor's Partner role, put my ambitions on the back burner, and it hasn't done a lick of good.
If you can't do that, realizing that your partner may never come around to your side of things, you are not ready to marry this person. I don't think I could let that happen. Children thrive on clarity and consistency. Make sure she is Even after that, the Church discourages them from entering serious relationships before they are considering marriage. The goal of dating at that age is to broaden your social circle and learn more about yourself.
But I can't figure out whether or not we will ever get to that stage with the current situation and I'm scared of wasting my time waiting for things to get better. Now if your faith is not so strong to begin with, this perhaps is no big deal. We might not always like the way some priesthood holders act, but to disparage the priesthood is not being responsible.