My sisters married to the temple served a mission etcв. Love the man you are going to marry- warts and all he loves yours as well. I run a local nonprofit and had a demanding job, but it can never be as difficult or challenging as his job. I always felt guilty for feeling bored, depressed or anxious about spending so much time apart from him, but thanks all, for making me realize that I am not alone. That isn't fair on you, and again will create stress and a stress point in the relationship. I hope so; otherwise I will have spent the best years of my life putting him thru grad school and med school. Anecdotes vs a much larger sample size. I am so glad to have found this blog too.
I appreciate all the replies explaining the extent of the aggravation and pain I likely will face. We are fighting and he has no patience which I understand but its really hard to accept for me because I feel like I need more from him out of the relationship. I know a lot of Mormons who were also not raised on fear and guilt and strict gender rolesвbut I was, as were many of my peers. Trust me, I too tried to make it work with my very Mormon also returned missionary ex-girlfriend. In the end, if the guy is the keeper you say he is then go with your gut. While it's true that Mormons are not one-dimensional and completely predictable, the odds of a successful relationship, given the OP's description of his girlfriend, are slim. The Mormon university BYU is quickly falling due to these feminists. I'm the overly busy person.
Should either of you sisters raise your children and wonder what faith will they choose. I just wanted to let SN and AD know that, if you decide to choose this path, you are not alone. If you remain active, Church service is very demanding of our lives в not a Sunday thing. I dated non mormon men. On top of that, we don't have personal time for each other and as a family often.