This comment has been removed by the author. I think it's very helpful that I wasn't nearly as busy for most of our relationship thus farwe got engaged before I got absurdly busy and so it's not like we weren't extremely close. I think I handle the lonliness a little better than most because I was an only child and like having my alone time. The church is very important to her. There are such things as perfect loving families though. I dated many LDS guys before him.
I am now 40, I have been seeing this man now my husband for 17 years. I am also going thru the same thing. But I also know that He loves us so much that He would never take away our ability to choose for ourselves. I had been teetering on the fringes for quite a long time, mostly coming to Church but not really being present, because I felt like an outcast as an older single. Of course I feel slighted at times, but I check myself and remember that my SO is doing his best given all his demands. But from what you said, this girl doesn't sound like she is going to be content to have a marriage for time only. He never has time for me. I was off travelling the world when I met and fell madly in love with a deployed Marine.
Don't tiptoe around the issue. Discover the joys of a non-sexual relationship and find sincere ways to show affection without sex. I decided not to answer his calls for some time to think. When I complain that I spent two days without seeing him and when he arrives home just keeps on answering his phone as if he was at work The other day a colleague called just to complain about a patient of theirs at 8: These people have no sense of privacy. LDS theology heavily promotes the idea that marriage and family are an important source of happiness in this life, not just the next. But what if your girlfriend is Mormon, but not active in the Church. If you try to deconvert her I suggest indirectly at first. From her summary, he just did not understand her dilemma at all. Patriarchal leadership is something that most women in the world valued until recently, but it is still a chief value with Mormons. Based on what you have written about your GF, my opinion is that you should cut your losses and move on.
Then she took a vacation to Utah and in her letter to me she stated that she had seen the Temple, and I never heard from her again. That said, I would be fully aware that Mormonism is going to compel even the best of them to do some truly horrendous stuff at times. God knows the big picture. Don't spend money on somebody else' Wife. He want to wait at least one year before he makes any decision he want to take it slow. Mormons have a well-known code of health, called the Word of Wisdom. If you go to mormonthink. There is still a chance you can work out your differences, but it will require major concessions on both sides.