The reality is that while God gave us a gospel of love and stands always ready to give us a helping hand, his mercy will not rob his justice. Disney gives them the fantasy where they can easily achieve a standard of perfection with low risk. At least people of different races are aware of those differences, and are on alert to deal with them.
Honestly, it isn't her fault. What can you expect. Over the years, it would have felt increasingly burdensome to accommodate practices that seemed to me like superstition. Let them see the good in you, and believe that their son or daughter has found a good match. I'm always torn between wanting to spend time together doing loads of fun things and giving him space to pursue his dream. But equally, does this mean you will have to sanction what you do, say and watch regarding Mormonism. Basically this is different than dating a religious mainstream Christian. I've been searching around for advice, and this blog page is probably the most informative on the topic of dating a doctor as I've been able to find anywhere. Dress nicely, as the girl will appreciate the effort put into looking good for her, and encourage her to do the same. We talked during the break and saw each other a few times before he moved, but he finally ended things a month into the break telling me "he loves me, but is no longer in love with me" and "doesn't think he can regain the passion.
Besides the obvious brain damage that you will be made to suffer your entire married life, there are future kids to think about. I have been reading this blog for a while now but this is the first time I have felt I needed to add my two cents in. Ma'am I really do thank you for being very blunt and quite honest in your writing about your life. No where did I say, nor I think indicate, that I thought this wasn't a complex issue, or that this girl is a caricature. She's told me the church is one of the most important things to her, but from what I've researched already there's no way I would subject my future children to this culture. If you don't want your "golden ticket" of the good life, then give me your golden ticket. I just wanted to let SN and AD know that, if you decide to choose this path, you are not alone. The first key question to as is: If the answer is yes then the relationship sounds like it's doomed. He was devastatedcalled me every night crying telling me to please go back. Even after that, the Church discourages youth from entering serious relationships before they are considering marriage.
I am trying so hard to be understanding but the time when I could discuss my fears with him are well and truly gone. She will want her kids blessed, baptized, taking temple trips to baptize for the dead, hold the priesthood, a bishop will ask you sons and daughters if they masterbate and punish them if they do, etc. I love talking religion with him and I have never pressured him to change his habits or anything else about him. But honestly, after putting so much time and money into something, not doing their absolute best and putting time and effort into it just isn't something people are apt to do even if they do like you If you can't be cool with getting what you can get now, I would consider there are plenty of things that might not change setting them loose. I would find it therapeutic to type out all of my feelings and at the same time he would get an update. I just found this blog. Fifty years later, not one of her 3 children, her dozen grandchildren or her numerous great grandchildren is an active member of the LDS church. I tell her there's no pressure and we'll just see how things play out. But wait a minute.