Still, I would be interested to hear your perspective and that of your readers. To find another job, a more family oriented one, move to another more financially friendly state we are in California and have a fresh start. I agree we shouldn't continue if we can't accept each other as we are. He sealed my husband and I on our wedding day. They could fill a book, the stories I could tell. We are in a predicament, because we are Jewish and it is difficult to get married between April and November during day light savings time because the sun sets much later which elongates our sabbath and makes it difficult to start a wedding at a reasonable time. If you are not old enough to consider marriage, you should be careful about having a serious, exclusive relationship. My husband is more relaxed now - even with 14 hour days - and yes, I am starting to feel like he is "coming back".
Have those candid conversations with HIM, ponder, and listen closely for the guidance of the Holy Ghost. But you can't make her think about the numerous facts that disprove Mormonism. How is that gonna work. You need to do this ceremony first where you end up pledging all your money and property to the church: It's cruel to suggest it. March 18, Run for the hills. Marriage to the wrong person is extremely difficult.
I'm a Mormon girl in love with an amazing non-Mormon man. That's our best option. I understand your internal conflict completely and my heart goes out to you. It seems like a minor point, but I have noticed that every Mormon girl who disobeys the Mormon direction to avoid coffee has something majorly wrong with her. See to it that she is aware of your plan, so you both can properly dress.
Second, in my experience mormons have been some of the kindest people I've ever had the privilege to know, and they have not lived up to the cult image you describe. And you seem like a good person. You can watch them all in about a half an hour and you'll know almost everything you need to know. At the end of the second date I knew I needed him in my life.